Parent & caregiver guide
When your child is being bullied
Bullying is repeated, intentional harm where there's a power imbalance. Your child needs two things from you at once: to feel completely believed, and to see you take calm, organized action. Missouri districts are required by law to have an anti-bullying policy and a reporting process.
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What to look for
Common signs
- Lost or damaged belongings, unexplained bruises
- Sudden loss of friends or avoiding social situations
- Not wanting to ride the bus or go to specific classes
- Changes in eating or sleeping, or self-critical talk
- Increased phone secrecy if it's happening online
Do this first
Practical strategies to try today
- 01
Start with belief: "I'm glad you told me. This is not your fault."
- 02
Write down every incident — date, time, place, who, what, witnesses. Screenshot online messages.
- 03
Report in writing to the principal and counselor, and ask for a written response and a safety plan.
- 04
Ask the school for concrete changes: seat/schedule moves, adult supervision at hot spots, no forced mediation with the bully.
- 05
Rebuild confidence outside school — one activity where your child is good at something.
How to bring it up
Conversation starters
"Who do you sit with at lunch these days?"
"Has anyone at school been making you feel small?"
"What would make tomorrow feel safer?"
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Worksheets and checklists
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Where to turn
Community resources
Don't wait
When to seek additional support
- The school has not responded to a written report within a week
- Any physical harm, threats, or sexual harassment — involve the district and, if needed, police
- Your child talks about hopelessness or self-harm — call or text 988
Still not sure what your child needs? Care Solutions offers free, non-clinical navigation for families — tell us what's going on and we'll help you find the next step.