Parent & caregiver guide
Launching: college, first jobs, and the young-adult handoff
The first year out is the biggest mental health transition of a young person's life: no built-in schedule, no built-in friends, and no parent noticing what's off. Most struggle around weeks 4 to 8, when the novelty ends. Set up the supports before move-in, not after the first crisis call.
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What to look for
Common signs
- Skipping class, sleeping through mornings, or not leaving the dorm
- Calls that are all crisis or a sudden stop in communication
- Talk of transferring or dropping out in the first few weeks
- Drinking or substance use replacing coping
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Practical strategies to try today
- 01
Before move-in: sign a HIPAA/FERPA release, locate campus counseling, and refill prescriptions.
- 02
Teach the boring skills now — booking their own appointments, refilling meds, emailing a professor.
- 03
Set a predictable check-in rhythm so calls aren't only about problems.
- 04
Normalize week-6 misery out loud: "Everyone's roommate is weird and everyone feels behind."
- 05
Encourage one recurring in-person thing: a job, club, gym class, or worship community.
How to bring it up
Conversation starters
"Who would you call there at 2am? Let's make sure that person exists."
"What's one thing that's harder than you expected?"
"Do you know where the counseling center is? Want to walk in with me at orientation?"
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Worksheets and checklists
Watch
Recommended videos
Where to turn
Community resources
Don't wait
When to seek additional support
- Missing classes for more than a week or failing everything
- Panic attacks, heavy drinking, or hopelessness
- Any suicidal talk — call 988 and campus safety
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